When you are juggling a family, job, friends and also trying to have a life, you can become overwhelmed by too many things, too much to do and too little time to do them.
What people expect of you, what you expect from them… it all can cause anxiety and feelings of guilt even when you don’t deserve it. Stop that by changing how you feel about your own expectations and realize that there are only 24 hours in a day and you can’t do everything.
Never saying “no”
It’s easy to take on too much when you have a hard time saying no to requests from friends, family members, employers and others putting pressure on you to do things.
When you agree to do something that isn’t important to you, it adds unnecessary stress. Try saying no, especially if you are asked to do something you don’t want to do, and see how good it feels.
Another source of being overwhelmed is when you try to be perfect. None of us is perfect and when we strive for perfection, failure is a distinct possibility. Instead, simply do your best and understand that is what you are able to do. Rarely does anything need to be perfect.
Being in control is great, but not necessary to our daily lives. In fact, letting someone else be in charge every once in a while can be freeing. When letting someone else perform a task, it may not be done exactly the way you would do it, but that’s okay. Maybe you will even learn a more efficient way to do it.
Figure out what is important to you and concentrate on that. Try not to worry about what is important to other people. Get rid of the irritability, sadness and guilt by keeping yourself and your family at the top of your list and letting everything else come in second.
Overwhelmed by clutter
Too many things and not having enough room to put everything away can add to your stress. Paper piles can add to anxiety as well.
Get your whole family involved in clearing the clutter, getting back control and changing expectations. You don’t have to have a plan or a list or priorities if those things become time killers. Just get started and see how far you can go in 15 minutes, an hour or an afternoon.
If you need help, I’m available for you. Contact me and we can get started on stopping the overwhelming feelings.